The Ethics of Glamouring

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IMO, Glamouring your boyfriend should be totally off limits.

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterTiki

Oh Jessica... sweetie... don't make it so darn complicated. The fact that you're even thinkin' about it shows you have nothin' to worry about.

Everyone has the capacity to do things... bad things... they wanna do real bad things. But they don't. Why? Because they have restraint and common sense, and obviously you do too since you're thinkin' alot about it. But most importantly: it's much more fun wanting to do it than actually doing it.

Now I agree... it's an awesome feelin'. Just lookin' around you... seeing all those humans and knowing you could do practicly anything and get away with it. Been there... done that. Am there... right now. But you know what: if I actually did... if did just go berserk and glutton myself... it'd lose all its charm in a nanosecond.

It's like when I was human and grew up and got an income... and I knew that if I wanted to I could fulfull my inner kid's fantasy of wasting bucketloads of money in the candy store... or the icecream parlor... or the toystore. But I didn't... because that ruins the whole charm of it.

And then, after the turning, it happened again. Suddenly having all this power to do things I could only dream of as a human! I didn't. Not because... well, not so much because it's unethical... and trust me: I wanted to be unethical! But I didn't, because revenge... or wanting... or just plain foolin' around... it stops being fun the moment it's over. It's the knowing that you can do it that is the buzz. Actually doing it, especially if you do it recklessly... well it just leaves you feeling like you had really really bad sex.... ew.

To get the most out of your powers you wait for the moment. Wait for that absolute perfect moment when you know that you will get the most out of it. Save it for those perfect occasions... and then you relish in it! Go for it with the full force of your desires and instincts!!

And afterwards, walk away with that dangerously wicked smirk of knowing that it was totally worth it.

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSenine

I don't think it's a bad thing to glamour someone once in a while. I think the real question is "Will it have lasting effects if done too many times?" Like would Hoyt start to have permanent memory loss over time? Maybe next time you should think twice, Jess. I think you and Hoyt are great together. I was so glad when you guys got back together, but of course like any couple you are gonna have some arguments. You just have to learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat them.

On another note, What's up with the doll. Didn't you guys get rid of that thing?

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDw1981

This can only end with you turning Hoyt. If you want to remain with each other forever Hoyt will have to be made vampire, there is no other way.

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMagnus

@tiki IMO, Glamouring your boyfriend should be totally off limits.

Even if you accidently did something totally embarrassing, like break wind during intimacy?

Well... not that we actually do break wind since that is something that comes with the disgusting process of digesting dead animals and plants. But you get the gist of it...

Actually, come to think of it... this is one of the things I would have wanted to be able to do glamoring for when I was still human: when my tummy would act up and I would just hate my body for stinkin' up the bathroom. That's when I wanted to be able to tell my (then) love "The bathroom smells like roses and lavender right now hun... just for your information".

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSenine

I understand that glamouring, if overused, can cause some form of mental damage. So try keeping it as a last resort in cases of emergency, at least that's what I'd like to do.

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLydia Goldbaum

It's not a matter or ethics or right or wrong or good or bad, it's pure choice :)

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSmile

Well, Jess, girl's gotta have some secrets.
Yeah, it sucks, and you'll feel guilty about it, but remember that if you love the man your little sidestep and the small epithanies that follow only make you realize why you love him in the first place and get you to love him even more. An old lady once told me 'Telling your other half about infidelity only causes both to be hurt. Keep it to yourself and you'll be the only one feeling burn and guilt, and perhaps you'll think twice next time' - she had a point.
But yeah, relationships are based on trust, so I agree with Tiki; glamouring your boyfriend should be totally off limits...though it's never that black and white

Even if you accidently did something totally embarrassing, like break wind during intimacy?
- well, if your relationship is shallow enough to not be able to laugh about something as insignificant as that, you should reconsider your connection :P

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterVoudoun

Hi Jessica,

I'm with Senine on this one. If you do something too often, the buzz you get from it now will soon pass, and you'll end up like Eric (semi-quote from season 2:) ''Finding it hard to feed from people, who offer it voluntary.'' And I don't think you want to end up only being able to feed off unwilling victims...

Take it from another vampire who's mainstreaming, if you want you human relationship to work, you are best to have that talk with Hoyt painful as it might be. And with Bill as your Maker as well, you may think it's petty, but being ''King'' is just his new title, it doesn't take away his original responsibilities towards you, nor his love for you.

Maybe you can figure out how to get a more satisfying diet because face it, you're too young as a vampire, you still need too much blood to decently feed you. If you quit the TruBlood completely, and feed ONLY on Hoyt, he'll start looking like a walking zombie due too anaemia, especially since he refuses your blood as a trade...
So maybe Bill can get his hands on human blood (from a bloodbank/hospital, or willing donors?) for you, without you having to actually feed off someone. If that proves to be the problem in your relationship...
If not, maybe you can allow Hoyt to be part of the feeding process (I'm not saying he has to watch your every move unless he's into that), but he might be able to ''help'' you select potential candidates in Fangtasia, so he might feel like he has some sort of control in this part of your relationship? This requires quite some openmindedness, but he didn't judge you when you told him about it the first time and you never fed off him before so he knew you had been feeding off other people, so you never know... maybe it's easier to work out then you think right now.

Those are the two things that worked for me before anyways, I hope they might work for you too!


July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterIceQueen

Well is a tough one. On one had as a human I want to say that you were making out with another guy at a club and that's not cool at all. But your a vampire and that guy is food. So now it's like saying that your only allowed to eat one type of food for the rest of your life like hamburgers, and now your a bad person because you had a piece of chicken. :)

July 11, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJoe
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