Be the Man

Where I grew up, we watched our words and we were careful about what came out of our mouths. Because once it’s out? It’s out. You can’t take it back. You can apologize, you can say you didn’t mean it, but you can’t hit control-Z and you can’t just erase what’s already been done.

Y’all keep saying that Hoyt didn’t mean “shit” that way, and you know what? You’re probably right. I know he loves me, vampire and all. And maybe the power of my blood makes him feel small. He’s in a relationship with a woman who’s faster and stronger than him. But that’s the woman he fell in love with. It’s been that way since day one. And while I want to let him be the man, so he can feel big and important, isn’t all that stuff silly? Haven’t we moved beyond all that in today’s world? Women can have careers and men can be stay-at-home dads.

Well I ain’t gonna just sit pretty for him. I’ve never been that way and I never will be.

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Reader Comments (151)

Jessica you and Hoyt can work it out. Every couple hits trouble spots in their relationship. Guy's say dumb stuff at times, as do women. Your right you can say your sorry, but it doesn't erase what was said. Talk to him about it and tell him what he said hurt you. I know and deep down you know Hoyt didn't mean to hurt your feelings.

Jessica, Hoyt loves you for everything that you are. He's told you that. And you don't need to sit pretty for him. Just by telling him that you love him, makes him happy. Be stong Jessica. Both you and Hoyt can be strong for each other.

You both found each other and love each other. That's more then most people or vampire gets.

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterEdwin

here in Brazil things are starting to be like this but like in Louisiana, men aren't ready to see women take over. So I say you shouldn't care about this and enjoy the man you love so much. If Hoyt really loves you he won't mind if you have more money. He'll just love you by what you are and you are going to love him the same way you did when you met. You just have to remember to keep the fire lit, otherwise things will just get cold :/ XOXO from Recife, Brazil

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterJulia Violet

Jessica, I think you need to take a step back and take a look at things from a whole different perspective.

Hoyt is in a very tough place right now. He is trying to have a normal life while still being in love with a vampire. It's probably hard for him to choose between normal and abnormal so it should still be understandable that he doesn't want your blood for ever scrap and bruise he gets. Maybe he wants to heal like a normal man. He might not need your help all the time.

No one said you have to sit pretty for him and I'm sure he doesn't want you to either. You may not be able to erase things that have been said but there is a thing called forgiveness, dear, and I think you should look into that. Forgive him and move on. Lingering on your problems with him will never help your relationship with Hoyt.

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDaerail

Amen, sister!

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered Commenterlola

What about the sexy dreams Jason is about to be having about you and him?? Just like it did when Eric saved Sookie's life. Just thought you might want to remember that when your thinking about the whole picture... Jason and Hoyt fighting, might get crazy...

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterZachary

There is no advice I can offer other than for you to just do it. Do what you feel is right and go from there.

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNurse Brittany

I think in relationships there is some give and some take. In my opinion I think hoyts being a bit of a jerk lately and I get that. He needs to start acting like the man of the house. From what I can tell and from what I've seen on your blog, he's just been sitting around watching TV. And warning, when you came home the other night from fangtasia he was watching a Vamp hating show or news channel. Yikes.

I've always thought you and Hoyt were perfect for each other and I hope you guys are just going through a rough patch. Give and take remember.
My suggestion, surprise him one night when he gets home from work, even if its horrible and you can't stand how disgusting it is, make him dinner. Just once. It'll help to clear away some of the smoke. Or maybe you two could go out to a nice resturant, not Merlotte's Or Fangasia. Somewhere you both have never been.

By the way, Did you two ever get married???? Or plan a date??? Like whats happeneing there? I thought he proposed???

I wish you both all the best! You two belong together.

One more thing, have you guys ever talked about, I know its a crazy Idea, but has Hoyt ever considered being changed? reborn? made vampire?

Love always,
Cassie :)

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCassie

oh sweety...u know be a couple..share a life is difficult...more difficult if one is a vampire and the other is human but...if u really love him and if he really loves u well...everything's gonna be me! and by the way...i'm a boyfriend is a man u can see we are from different words too!!!!
be honest, strong, patient, kind but the most important thing yourself always! people loves u because of're smart, brilliant,kind, beautiful! you're a babyvamp so? you have a lot of things to learn but you are not the only...
with love...

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered Commentersara

I agree with you!

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLiebe

I agree! Men say they're not threatened by us, but they are. They really prefer us sitting by the stove each night and putting 4 children to bed and fetching them a beer whenever they feel like it. God, it makes me so angry. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to be a stay-at-home mom, but it's supposed to be an even thing; when women are powerful it almost always becomes a joke to men. And I'm sick and tired of always being surpressed.
Stand up to him! Vamp up!

July 21, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterChloe
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